Well, let me put it in order for you:
I made a thread months ago when my father was diagnosed with cancer and i asked people for help, for i read alot on internet about conventional treatments and realized that they wont make things better, but for worse [and it did.], so i read for hours over internet information how to help him, when theres someone from your close people in need for help, you should use any way to gather information that might help the one you love. So i did, i started that thread where asked for peoples help. You havent even checked my profile i assume, otherwise you would have found that thread, so dont say that "it came all of a sudden and that dude said his father is dead and everyone went like "OMG WTF RIP SORRY MAN PLUR SHANTI ETC"" when you clearly have no clue what its all about. Dont. Ive never seeked an attention or for someones else condolences to me or my family, i never will, i am not selfish.
You dont know me, i dont know you, but id like to dare to say - you have lots to learn in life if you still think that people are pitty for you and what not considering your loss, it is wrong way to perceive things, i dare to say. Its only HUMANE to receive condolences from people around you, its not normal to run away from them and stay shut, nobody tells you to yell your pain out in the middle of some gathering of people you know so everybody runs to you and is sorry for you etc, drama like that is not happening irl, usually, unless you make one yourself and ask for it, false condolences and artificial sympathies is another topic, there happen to be such people, but why should you care about them. Im sorry that youve lost your father, i dont know what kind of relationships you two had, i dont know if youve got over it or not, i could only say that im sorry that it has happened, im not gonna go on about bla bla bla concerning topic about losing the ones we love, you know it yourself, i know it, others try to imagine or simply feel you because they have gone through tought times themselves.
I know my sentences seem awkward, i wont rewrite them.
1-it didnt come suddenly, people here know he was ill for i made a thread months ago to ask for any help and info people here could have
2-it has nothing to do with gang, your perception on that matter if faulty. Yes, i am a regular here, i registered 3 years ago and been active for 2.5+ years already, so some people have got used to me and with some weve had some good laughter and share some little common interests, nothing big, but having a good laugh and fun with strangers you dont know but wouldnt mind to meet IRL is reason enough for people to exchange with honest opinions and express their condolences with. Its the same as with positive things happening - even complete stranger you have hardly spoken to can come into your thread and cheer for you, its called i dont know, being human?
3-you can perceive condolences as people looking down at you like at some kind of poor puppy left on the street to starve, but thats your point of view, even if some people do feel this way for those they express condolences to, that doesnt make you that little puppy, or does it?