MrAnarchy Posted June 12, 2016 Share Posted June 12, 2016 Let's talk about irrational fear now. I will start of course. 2 months ago, I noticed that youtube was taking down most of the [FULL ALBUM] videos and i lost almost whole playlist I compiled on it. I went to a store, bought a 32gb flash memory drive, pirated what I could pirate (don't look at me like that), downloaded my favorite albums from Ektoplazm and copied them all to the flash drive. The digital albums that I bought I already backed up ofc... Now I have a stick with 20gb of goa trance because I'm afraid the internet is going to get censored or cease to be in general. I know right... Most kids my age store pornography lol What is your irrational fear? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnb820 Posted June 12, 2016 Share Posted June 12, 2016 I have an irrational fear of escalators. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Anoebis Posted June 12, 2016 Share Posted June 12, 2016 Telephones... I hate to call, for sure when I have to call... Receiving is more ok, but I will only answer when really necessary... or when I really know the person well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Eye Posted June 12, 2016 Share Posted June 12, 2016 Telephones... I hate to call, for sure when I have to call... Receiving is more ok, but I will only answer when really necessary... or when I really know the person well This is so me it's a bit scary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starkraver Posted June 12, 2016 Share Posted June 12, 2016 ^ escalators (though now I'm more comfortable than before) , , calls (make me anxious now a days! Who is calling me, why are they calling me!) The biggest fear right now is that I have overslept so much that I ended up waking up in the evening! Which is not the case everytime. I wake up right on time but always wake up with this fear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnb820 Posted June 12, 2016 Share Posted June 12, 2016 With escalators it's not that I am afraid of heights, but I can get vertigo pretty easily. Something about how my body is moving at an angle and yet I'm standing up right. We have several subway stations here in Buffalo where you have to go down at least 2-3 stories through escalators (or stairs in my case). http://www.buffalonews.com/storyimage/BN/20160116/LIFE/160119425/EP/1/3/EP-160119425.jpg My body's natural tendency is to lean forward to stay parallel to the incline. At least if I take the stairs my body can focus on there being the stairs to step down on to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anu Katariina Posted June 16, 2016 Share Posted June 16, 2016 I have a fear of nightmares. When I lay down, I often think I am scared of what is to come: I don't see nightmares every week but when I do, they are crazy. Btw, for those who are scared of elevators: check if the elevator is made by KONE http://www.kone.com/en/, if, no need to be scared Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mergi Posted June 16, 2016 Share Posted June 16, 2016 I'm now a few days past my second month of sobriety, hopefully it'll stay that way for the rest of my life. Why stay sober? Because I'm littered with fears, really a bunch of irrational fears and the only way for me to handle this before going sober was to drench myself in alcohol and to stay drunk as long as I possibly could. My primary fear is being abandoned, have had that since I was little kid. I'm very very insecure. My secondary fear is that I think that everyone thinks of me in negative terms and I pretty much always interpret every signal from people around me as something untoward directed at me. Generally this stuff is mostly linked to a very low or complete absence of self esteem which is the case for me. I never fit in in any situation mainly because of my fears above. I don't know how to stop feeling frightened about social encounters or other situations where fear is irrational. Right now I'm trying to see it as tinnitus, like "get used" to it. Also working on a way to stop my mind from starting these endless thought patterns of idiocy and fear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Eye Posted June 16, 2016 Share Posted June 16, 2016 My primary fear is being abandoned, have had that since I was little kid. I'm very very insecure. My secondary fear is that I think that everyone thinks of me in negative terms and I pretty much always interpret every signal from people around me as something untoward directed at me. Generally this stuff is mostly linked to a very low or complete absence of self esteem which is the case for me. I never fit in in any situation mainly because of my fears above. Sounds a bit like me, but I've already given up on trying to "fit in". I'm the way I am and if someone doesn't like it they can fuck off I've never tried to "treat" it with intoxicating substances, but rather with stuff I can do on my own (music, video games, anime for the most part). I still mostly enjoy solitude, or the company of one person. In my first 10 years of going to parties I practically didn't get to know anyone. I was always by myself. I've actually gotten to know people after I started DJing (it kinda comes with it) and it still feels a bit weird that people actually know who I am 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starkraver Posted June 16, 2016 Share Posted June 16, 2016 and also where you lii... I think I'm one of those who constantly trouble you. Hi hi, sorry about that. @Mergi, now where did you come from? It's all in your head. Activity activity and more activity is what you need. I honestly think you fit in perfectly fine atleast at a place where we both spend time at (ifsm) I felt the same as you guys but once you open that lock, this(points to self) will be the result. I just can't stop talking/socialising. I'm aware that sometimes I cross the line and actually irritate people but I can't help it :/ I will talk to just about everyone now. In my case I think a big shout out goes to my brother who helped with this. Knowingly or unknowingly idk. Just the fact that he would be there backing me up come what may, gives me such confidence and strength that I've slowly let go off my old behaviour and "habits". I felt my fear of abandonment was completely rational and real as I grew up in a "tensed atmosphere" at home which was the root cause for me being old me, it still is if I want it to but I have just accepted the situation and don't try to blame it for my shortcomings. (Even now I fantasise about a happy family full of laughter and stuff) Yes I considered it a short coming as the lack of interaction was affecting my language, my perspective, my behaviour all of which in turn affected my college life until I found the sweet leaf and the happy rock and magic paper & then the game was flipped. And here I am bugging people from half way across the world The negative part though is the prominent one with me. Call it viewing me with a negative outlook / as a failure or useless being. I feel everyone is judgemental towards me, especially family members. If I feed that thought, I'll spend days on it. Which I can't afford to. So like Paul, I say fuck off and get back to my activity I'm not sure if it's my ghetto life or the "good effects" of the past abuses. I tend to think it's the former and it'll be fine after I return to normal life. Or it may even be the skewed opinion of my family members on how one should lead a life. And M, as I said before these things shouldn't bother you. Find a higher calling and rise above these petty things tae kwan do! Or a pressing plant for you, vaccinating 100 street dogs for me. When we achieve this, we will have new goals Good luck on the sober life once again. You'll make it through I know it. Loads of love & strength. @Paul, you won't be block me right? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mergi Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 Thanks for the responses both of you. The most debilitating part of being insecure is that I depend solely on others opinions (combined with 0 self esteem I'm surprised and very happy that I'm still alive) about me and this is, after 25 years of sleepwalking, very hard to let go of. Even though I know that I have to in order to grow up as person. Emotionally I'm still 7 years old, and I'm not in any way bending the truth here. M/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abasio Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 I hesitate to wade in as I don't know what you're going through personally, how you feel or what you've tried but most people I've met with low self-esteem have been waiting for someone to come and make them feel better about themselves. But it never works. Self-esteem has to come from yourself or it is only temporary. If you can let go of the feeling that you should be getting positive reinforcement from people when you do sonething good, sooner or later you'll be left feeling awful because no one cared. For me the best way was to start a hobby that I can achieve things by myself. I started going on longer and longer walks and taking photos for myself. I felt good that I was feeling less tired after walking the same distance, that I took a photo that I liked. No one else was involved but I felt good. Sorry if you've tried this already. Everyone's different and it's not going to work for everyone but trying as many things as possible will increase the chances of finding an answer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starkraver Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 Rightly said Abasio. An activity even if it's just a simple one as walking does a load of good.Pets are a great option as well. Not sure of the cats though( I wish I lived up north huskies and pomskies!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abasio Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 Cats are not the best pets if you lack self esteem. Having something in your house that either detests you or sees you as its pet and is unlikely to react positively to anything you do is depressing for anyone. It takes a certain type to invite a cat into their life. Best go with a dog, they'll give you the kind of unconditional love and respect a young child will but they'll never stop 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starkraver Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 you said it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrAnarchy Posted June 17, 2016 Author Share Posted June 17, 2016 Omg that is so not true about cats! All that talk about "Dogs are true friends and cats think of you as a slave" is wrong. I've had atleast 30 cats since I was a kid and they always made me feel great. Depends what kind of person you are but I find the beauty and purring of a cat as the best anxiolytic and dogs are a nuisance to me with all the jumping around, licking, barking even tho I do like them. They just bring in too much energy for me. So it just depends on what you need in life. I love both animals, but prefer cats. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starkraver Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 I currently have 5 female dogs and 3 cats. I do love them all but I would always prefer dogs. Especially female ones. I feel female dogs are more mature and that motherly instinct in them is fantastic to see and experience. Last year around December we had double litter, and both the dogs loved each other's puppies and fed them milk. Good times I understand your point. But cats are cats. Self centric beings. On the other hand dogs are completely opposite. Their life will revolve around you. The moment they wake up they will come to you, their day begins and ends with you. If you are sick, they can sense it. They'll not have food themselves if your not having. They are just waaaaay more emotionally attached than a cat can ever be. It's this unconditional love is what Abasio is talking about. It's just how cats are, can't help it. It doesn't mean we hate cats. Nah, for therapy and happiness around it's always dog. Cows are the most sensitive ones of course if you interact with them apart from at the dining table , you'll know what I'm talking about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
technosomy Posted June 19, 2016 Share Posted June 19, 2016 i fear the fear of fear.... and all that comes with it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abasio Posted June 19, 2016 Share Posted June 19, 2016 There is nothing to fear but fear itself....and the sky falling on our heads. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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